'I never raised my voice... I just didn't apologize': Out-of-state diner gets called a Karen by her friend after complaining about her meal

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    pazaonl fresh
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    AITA Am I The Karen? So little backstory, I (21F) am a Midwestern transplant to the deep south of Georgia. Now I'm not of the the midwestern vein that inherited Canadian niceness, but rather the NYC-meets- Redneck region where quite frankly, no one gives a 1. As such, I am quite blunt and VERY different from the southern women around here. I try not to
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    be , but it comes out that way from time to time when I dont say it with a smile, because I have no need to do so at the time. But I've developed some skills to fit in a little better and can usually slap a 'I'm-not-mad- but-fix-it' grin on when I need to.
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    I'm in a restaurant with my friend, who consistently makes jokes that I'm Karen. So at said restaurant, we're having lunch and it is a SLOOOOW day for this place. Now I normally have absolutely zero issue with food coming out slow, it happens, I get it. But being one of 4 tables on an uncharacteristically slow day with a full staff, I shouldn't expect to
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    wait 45 minutes for two sandwiches that seemed like they'd been done for quite some time. The food was cold, soggy, unseasoned, and their new portion control ideas were taken WAY too far. I realize that the staff working flat doesn't care to do things right that day and don't even bother sending it back because there would be no point; I want to pay for my food that I've pushed away and go.
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    Waitress returns and asks "Everything tasting good?" To which I reply with aforementioned grin, "No it really kind of sucked, can I just get the check?" because she ASKED. She got a little flustered and went to go get the manager, to my protest because I really didn't care, it was one meal and I still got to
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    hang out with my friend, who is embarrassed on the other side of the table because I seem to have his offended his polite sensibilities. Waitress and Manager return, he asks what the problem was, and I tell him all the things I mentioned because, again, HE ASKED. I wasn't angry, I never raised my voice, I never cursed, I just didn't
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    apologize for not liking the food, which here is customary. He rolled his eyes so far back into his head I'm pretty convinced he saw the secret to life, and told me they could comp it if I wanted. I said no because the food is usually decent and didn't want to be hated, and my friend asked "Then why make a fuss?" BECAUSE THEY ASKED! And still every time we go somewhere he asks me not to be Karen.
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    Mind you there have been other instances of such thing happening in different contexts. One such brief example is when I made a guy step away from his own birthday party because his car was blocking me in and I wanted to go home. Did my grin but didn't apologize for making him step away because it's not
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    my fault he parks like . Friend didn't like that one either and he thought it was important to mention this event to provide context of my "karenness" Am I the for being too blunt? Rather, am I the Karen?
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    wiggleb biscuits YTA. I'm a blunt New Yorker and saying 'no it kind of I still strikes me as insanely You don't have to apologize to be polite; you could say 'honestly, it's pretty soggy and doesn't taste as good as the food usually does here' or something else honest but not so
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    Don't decide that being a to people is 'just how I am', it's a bad path.
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    km... 99% of the time, when people say "I'm just a blunt person!", what they really mean is "I would rather allow every unfiltered thought that graces my brain to exit through my mouth than spend a single moment in consideration of other people's feelings". You do not appear to be in the minority.
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    Not only are you the Karen, but you're well on your way to becoming the final Karen boss that hapless servers and retail workers have to defeat five minutes before close, after clearing a full day's worth of lesser Karens. YTA. Your assholery isn't a fun regional quirk and you get precisely zero points for slapping on an insincere grin and saying through your teeth.
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    fuckthetop YTK. You're "I'm not mad but fix it" grin sounds like it's probably condescending af Imao
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    [deleted] YTA but you seem proud of it so this may be a validation post so double YTA?
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    reynlr Honestly, if people around you constantly point out (even as a joke) that you're the Karen, you're probably the Karen. YTA.
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    UnlikelyMetal7 You are the embodiment of Karen. There's not one paragraph in this post where you're not describing what a Karen you are. All of your rationalisations are Karen rationalisations:
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    What you perceive: >But I've developed some skills to fit in a little better and can usually slap a 'I'm- not-mad-but-fix-it' grin on when I need to.
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    What the rest of the world sees: Resting face over here cannot smile, has no manners and finds fault with every little thing YTA, big time.
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    ghostofcrystal YTA. Saying "no it kind of sucked" is a way to put it. Just because the waitress asked doesn't mean you have to be I you could have worded it more kindly. And yes, that is totally a Karen thing to do.

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